By Ilene Bloch-Levy

I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma two years ago. MM (as it is familiarly called) is cancer of the bone marrow. It is a very individual disease, and unlike other cancers has no international protocol. While there is no cure (yet) for the illness, it is eminently treatable. I am in treatment at Tel Hashomer Hospital, Tel Aviv, which, unfortunately, has become my second home. (I say unfortunately because who wants to have a hospital as your second home.)

I am an involved and engaged MM patient with the medical staff and all the associated ancillary services. I am constantly reading about the disease, receiving research abstracts and generally asking a million questions of everyone to help me better understand what is happening to me, and trying to figure out what I can do to help in the process of treating the illness. I have also been upfront and forthcoming about my illness with family and friends near and far. Yet, I recently learned a new life-skill which I hope I can translate into helping others. 

My professional work is behind the scenes, so my reluctance to attend a Chanukah party-workshop at a place of employment where teams from both offices would be gathering and sharing is understandable. Attendance was mandatory, which forced me to put aside my reluctance and, instead, put on a happy face, as they say.

Hard to believe, but the main workshop, after mingling and eating time, and a D’var Torah, was floral arranging. My heart went out to the men. After all, outside of my husband who knows more about flowers than anyone I know, I couldn’t imagine what the other men would find engaging about floral arranging.

The workshop leader has three decades of experience, and bills herself as an “expert in healing and rehabilitating through the use of flowers.” It’s a mouthful, I admit. She gave us tips for arranging floral centerpieces (snipping flower ends, mixing in greens, inserting the stems in the sponge, etc.) while concomitantly integrating her knowledge of the significance of colors and the unique healing powers inherent in flowers.

I was distracted and impatient. Choosing the minimalist approach in arranging my flowers, I completed my assignment well before anyone else. No place to go, nothing else to do, I of course began to think about my illness, which is as much a part of me as any other part of my body. After all, it has insinuated itself throughout my body and lives inside of me 24/7.

After completing our floral arrangements (bravo to the men) each participant was required to randomly select a card from a deck about flowers (placed face down). Mine was an iris. Two qualities associated with the flower were listed under each photograph.

I half-heartedly listened to the others as they shared how they identified with the qualities listed on their cards, with most tying the qualities to their work experience. (Remember this was a workshop sponsored by our place of employment.) Then I looked at mine. Two words were listed. Flowing. Connectivity. It was my turn to share.

So, when the floral expert called upon me, I suddenly focused on the task at hand, cleared my voice and looked around the tables. I said that I’ve learned two of life’s seminal lessons during the past two years of my life.

One: the need to accept things as they are.

Two: the need to remain connected with those people who make a difference in my life and who are important to me.

I felt the silence around me as I finished speaking, but, I also felt a genuine desire to incorporate my life’s lessons into the other participants’ lives. These are not lessons exclusively for cancer patients. Perhaps, after all, this was my brief instructive workshop for them.

Ilene Bloch-Levy was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in March 2012. She grew up in New York and made aliyah in 1986. She has 6 married children, and her husband has 3 married children. They both enormously enjoy a gaggle of grandchildren. A freelance copywriter, Ilene lives in the Shomron. According to her, “One of the joys of working in Israel is that Israelis get the important things in life; during my treatments and hospitalization, all of my clients patiently waited for me to return to work.”

[Editor’s note: We are grateful to Ilene for sharing some of her personal experiences with the SPP community, and are confident that her thoughts will help strengthen and enlighten the readers. Her views are her own and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Shira Pransky Project.

10 thoughts on “An Instructive Workshop… Not Just for Cancer Patients

  1. Ilene, you are and always have been a great writer!! This is a wonderful article and I thank you for the insights! For sure not just for cancer patients. Love you! Karen

  2. Ilene – very moving. thanks for sharing. you are an inspiration for all of us with the Big C. it is always there. the challenge as you describe it so well is to move on with your life and accept
    that IT is part of that life. may G-d grant you many, many more healthy, productive years. you
    are a very special person.

    Esther & Mark Lawner

  3. Doda Ilana,
    Well written, as always….except that you have been an example of those 2 lessons for more than just the past 2 years. Those are things that you have emphasized to family and friends for a very long time. And they are things that are easy to say – and very hard to do. And you have succeeded in doing them.
    Love from all of us, and see you soon.
    Carmi

  4. As Ilene’s sister I have watched Ilene deal with her situation with great dignity and grace. She lets everyone in and I think it not only helps her but I know it helps me. I look forward to our daily conversations and I greatly appreciate how she shares her thoughts and battles in regard to her MM. I look forward to what she has to say next.

    May Hakodesh Baruch Hu grant you good health.

    I love you
    Beth

  5. בע”ה

    איילין היקרה .

    העוז וההדר, העצמה וחן, הכל אצלך.

    בריאות אושר ושמחה עם כל המשפחה

    zgn

  6. The iris is my favorite flower. So amazingly gracious and elegant. So inspirational in each variety of color. It suits you Ilene. Thanks for sharing,
    You’ve touched many lives. May HaShem bless you with strength and health.
    Love,
    J

  7. Ilene
    As I have shared with you, you are now sharing with me and with many others.
    Cancer has been part of my life and will continue to be part of my life but it does not define me.
    Acceptance and staying connected.
    I truly can relate with both and live with both qualities every day.
    Yasher koach and thank you for sharing.
    Refuah Shleima!
    Much love,
    Tania

  8. Ilene, you are an inspiration today as you were on our pilot trip! May you continue to heal and grow with the grace HaShem has bestowed upon you. May you see a complete recovery and healing.
    With love,
    Miryam

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